The New Alpha Male by Lance Allred

Author:Lance Allred
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 9781683643777
Publisher: Sounds True
Published: 2020-02-10T16:00:00+00:00

»The next time you find yourself in a situation where someone might be dumping or projecting onto you, go into observer mode. Get outside of your body and watch the moment.

»Allow them one minute—sixty seconds. See them with clarity, knowing your value and worth are not attached to how they are seeing you. You will resist the great temptation to interrupt or defend yourself. (If they are calmer and their energy isn’t unbearable, you can wait for as long as your peace of mind allows.)

»When sixty seconds are up, and you can feel they are close to finishing, you may wait. When they are done, you will say, “Thank you for the feedback.”

»And you will earnestly look for any truth in their projection, asking yourself if there is truly something in their projection that can help you see a blind spot you have.

»If their mental unwellness is to the point where they are not stopping, you will raise a prayer hand to them, and bow. This will interrupt them when your compassionate boundaries say their time is up. You will then say, again, “Thank you for the feedback. This is helpful.”

»This will most likely enrage them. And if they continue to verbally assault you, you do not have to stay any longer. They will most likely see and understand that was your limit, your boundary, and respect it and/or grow bored with you, knowing you will not be a future choice to vent at because you will not give them the reaction they wanted.

»If they happen to threaten and/or become physically violent, then you can call the police. Whenever a player threatened me physically on the court, it never fazed me. I simply stared right back at them, saying, “What are you gonna do? Punch me? Cool, do it, and I will have fun watching you get arrested and suspended. And I will finish this game tonight and win it.” They never threw the punch. And I never took the bait.

»Spend time daily imagining yourself in another’s shoes, someone with a different skin color, religion, or gender, feeling what it must be like in their experience of the human condition without judgment or comparison to your own. Compassion is a muscle that requires development.

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